This message will self destruct in....3....2.....1...
Ok, not really but the truth is:
We all have
those moments where we become "self
We are on track and doing well and then something happens or comes
up that throws us off course.
Well here is the honest truth.......
Were not actually self destructive.
Self destructive is defined as 1. Tending to do harm to oneself.
2. Marked by an impulse or tendency to harm or kill oneself.
Well while we go opposite of our goals and desires I dont think
either one of the definitions for self destruction is something you
So why are we "self destructive?"
Heres the real truth.
The real reason we become "self destructive" is our goals
and desires are not clear enough.
SO HOW TO I GET CLEAN GOALS AND DESIRES?
1ST: SET GOALS THAT ARE TRULY YOURS
To often do we set goals that are not truly ours but those around
us. So we must set goals that are our own. We do this by looking at
what our true desires are and how we desire our life to be. Make
sure when setting goals, you are laying out ALL of your goals and
not just a few of them at a time. The reason for this is because
sometimes we come up with contradicting goals. If we do not put
them all all out then we will typically drop them both and not
2ND: FIND THE TRUE REASON FOR YOUR GOALS
This part is where most of us fail. Just look at New Years
Resolutions. We simply say "I want to lose 10 pounds, workout
3 times a week, be a better family member." But thats it!
Heres how to do it: Take out a sheet of paper and write down each
one of your goals on the top of a new page. Then take each goal ask
yourself "Why do you want to achieve this goal?"
"How am I going feel?" "Why do you want to feel this
way?" "What am I going to have to do to make this goal
happen?" Then take a few extra lines and ask your self again
"Why and how?"
3RD: LINK ALL GOALS TOGETHER
Going back to #1. We now must intertwine our goals together to
ensure that they go together and are not contradicting of each
other. Once you have done this, your on the right track for your
4TH: GETTING A.I.R.
A.I.R. Stands for:
Check out this video where I break down the
idea of A.I.R. - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bismybk6s4M
Once all 4 steps are put into place you will have a much deeper
connection with your goals and have a real purpose for achieving
them. Because of these steps you will have a clear reason for your
goals. This will keep you more connected to the reason as well as
keep it firmly planted in the back of your mind. This will keep
"self destructive" behavior from coming out and
sabotaging your goals and results.
1. Set goals that are truly yours and have purpose
2. Define the true reasons for your goals
3. Connect all your goals together to ensure they go together
4. Get A.I.R.