• Listen for negative self-talk. Start with something you know you are typically negative about and focus on one way to approach it more positively.
• Check your self-talk to see if it is in line with your goals. For example, if you are backsliding from your goals, rather than being overly critical, “ugh, I did it again,” “I’ll never get this right,” trying giving objective, instructional self-talk that is specific to the task, “chin down, hips back.” Motivational self-talk is also helpful, “keep at it,” “you can do this.”
• Learn to find humor in things. There is so much freedom in learning to laugh at yourself. It promotes self-acceptance, and is a great stress reliever.
• Practice, practice, practice. The more you practice positive self-talk, the easier it becomes. Follow this rule: Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to someone else
I’ve never done it before.
It’s an opportunity to learn something new.
It’s too complicated.
I’ll tackle it from a different angle.
I don’t have the resources.
Necessity is the mother of invention.
I’m too lazy to get this done.
I wasn’t able to fit it into my schedule, but I can re-examine some priorities.
There’s no way it will work.
I can try to make it work.
It’s too radical a change.
Let’s take a chance.
No one bothers to communicate with me.
I’ll see if I can open the channels of communication.
I’m not going to get any better at this.
I’ll give it another try.